{"id":2227,"date":"2024-07-08T06:51:15","date_gmt":"2024-07-08T06:51:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/192.168.0.235:10004\/?p=2227"},"modified":"2025-12-23T22:30:38","modified_gmt":"2025-12-23T22:30:38","slug":"the-power-of-positive-thinking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/?p=2227","title":{"rendered":"\u0130\u00e7 Kap\u0131m\u0131z"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>\u0130nsan\u0131n hayat yolculu\u011fu beni hep b\u00fcy\u00fclemi\u015ftir. <strong>Her birimiz belirli ko\u015fullar\u0131n i\u00e7ine do\u011far, deneyimler toplar ve bu birikimlerin i\u00e7inde kendimize ve hayata dair tan\u0131mlar olu\u015ftururuz.<\/strong> Ancak 30\u2019lara geldi\u011fimizde \u00e7o\u011funlukla bir \u015feyler zorlamaya ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u00e7eride <strong>yaln\u0131zl\u0131k, mutsuzluk ya da eksiklik hissi<\/strong>; d\u0131\u015far\u0131da <strong>gerginlik, \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma ya da bitmeyen bir aray\u0131\u015f<\/strong>\u2026 Eski tan\u0131mlar ve al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar art\u0131k iyi gelmez olur. <strong>Bizi ileri ta\u015f\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi y\u00fck\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc art\u0131r\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ben insan\u0131 <strong>iki kap\u0131l\u0131 bir eve<\/strong> benzetirim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>D\u0131\u015f kap\u0131,<\/strong> di\u011ferlerinin g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc kap\u0131d\u0131r. Orada kabul g\u00f6ren davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 iyi k\u00f6t\u00fc \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015fizdir; kontrol elimizdedir. \u0130\u00e7imizde \u00e7ok sinirlensek bile \u00e7o\u011fu zaman d\u0131\u015f kap\u0131da bunu y\u00f6netmeyi, <strong>uygun bir dille ifade etmeyi biliriz.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>\u0130\u00e7 kap\u0131 <\/strong>ise bamba\u015fka \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bir ki\u015fi, durum ya da olay bizi tetikledi\u011finde h\u0131zla ve neredeyse <strong>otomatik olarak a\u00e7\u0131l\u0131verir.<\/strong> Daha ne oldu\u011funu anlamadan i\u00e7eriye girmi\u015f buluruz o \u015feyi. Yans\u0131tmamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fsak da bizi di\u011fer \u015feylerden daha h\u0131zl\u0131 ve daha \u00e7ok etkiler. \u0130\u00e7imizde <strong>\u00fczg\u00fcn, k\u0131zg\u0131n, tetikte, de\u011fersiz, yetersiz, halinden memnun olamayan i\u00e7 sesler belirir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Zihinsel ve duygusal olarak yeterince zor olan bu halin \u00fczerine, \u00e7o\u011funlukla otuzlu ya\u015flar\u0131n sonlar\u0131nda <strong>bedensel zorluklar<\/strong> da eklenir: <em>mide\u2013ba\u011f\u0131rsak sorunlar\u0131, ge\u00e7meyen omuz\u2013bel a\u011fr\u0131lar\u0131, ba\u015f a\u011fr\u0131lar\u0131, kronik yorgunluk\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ve bir noktada \u2014<strong>hayatta \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fimiz mevcut tan\u0131mlar\u0131n ve al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131n art\u0131k i\u015fimize yaramad\u0131\u011f\u0131na ikna olacak kadar bedel \u00f6dedi\u011fimizde<\/strong>\u2014 sormaya ba\u015flar\u0131z:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Neden i\u00e7 kap\u0131 \u00e7alar \u00e7almaz otomatik a\u00e7\u0131yorum?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Neden \u201ckim o?\u201d diye sormuyorum?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ve baz\u0131 insanlara ya da durumlara bu kap\u0131n\u0131n anahtar\u0131n\u0131 ne zaman ve nas\u0131l verdim?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu sorular genellikle <strong>\u00f6zel hayatta ayr\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n, i\u015f hayat\u0131nda \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n<\/strong> artt\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00f6nemlerde belirir. O anlarda <em>\u201cMekan\u0131m\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirirsem sorunlar da de\u011fi\u015fir\u201d<\/em> diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Fakat birka\u00e7 y\u0131l sonra d\u00f6n\u00fcp bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda ayn\u0131 d\u00f6ng\u00fcleri yeniden ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ayn\u0131 duygu, ayn\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce, ayn\u0131 i\u00e7 kap\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As\u0131l mesele, bu <strong>i\u00e7 seslerin ve otomatik tepkilerin ard\u0131ndaki mekanizmay\u0131<\/strong> <strong>anlamakt\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc her insan\u0131n i\u00e7 sistemi kendi i\u00e7inde \u00e7o\u011funlukla <strong>\u00e7ok tutarl\u0131d\u0131r<\/strong>; ilk bak\u0131\u015fta \u00e7eli\u015fkili hatta birbirine z\u0131t g\u00f6r\u00fcnen \u00f6zellikler bile asl\u0131nda <strong>bir b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcn par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hayat hikayemiz boyunca, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman <strong>\u00e7ok eski d\u00f6nemlerde<\/strong> ya da <strong>\u00e7ok ani, \u00e7ok yo\u011fun anlarda<\/strong> kendimizi korumak i\u00e7in baz\u0131 stratejiler geli\u015ftiririz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bug\u00fcn <em>\u201cBen b\u00f6yleyim\u201d, \u201cHayat b\u00f6yle\u201d<\/em> dedi\u011fimiz kal\u0131plar\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck k\u0131sm\u0131 o d\u00f6nemlerin izlerini ta\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Oysa bug\u00fcn\u00fcn deneyimi, becerisi ve g\u00fcc\u00fcyle \u00e7oktan a\u015fabilece\u011fimiz \u015feyleri h\u00e2l\u00e2 <strong>o eski, toy halimizin korku ve \u00e7aresizli\u011fiyle<\/strong> \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu mekanizmalar art\u0131k bize fayda sa\u011flamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi <strong>ciddi \u015fekilde yorar.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00dcstelik onlar\u0131 <em>\u201cbenim i\u00e7 sesim\u201d<\/em> zannetti\u011fimiz i\u00e7in \u2014yani <strong>\u201cben\u201d zannetti\u011fimiz i\u00e7in<\/strong>\u2014 mekanizma olduklar\u0131n\u0131 fark etmek bile \u00e7o\u011fu zaman <strong>y\u0131llar al\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu y\u00fczden <strong>ben\u2013sen, hakl\u0131\u2013haks\u0131z gibi ikiliklerde<\/strong> s\u00fcr\u00fcklenir dururuz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tam bu noktada \u00e7o\u011fumuz, zorlanan i\u00e7 sistemi dengelemek i\u00e7in <strong>bir \u015feyler ekleme<\/strong> e\u011filiminde oluruz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Uzun bir tatil, yeni bir strateji, yeni al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Fakat zaten y\u00fck\u00fc artm\u0131\u015f bir sistemi <strong>daha da doldururuz.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Oysa \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z olan \u015fey eklemek de\u011fil, azaltmakt\u0131r:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015flevsiz kal\u0131plar\u0131 yava\u015f yava\u015f b\u0131rakmak,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>fazla \u00e7abay\u0131 azaltmak, y\u00fckleri b\u0131rakmak\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00d6zellikle de <strong>\u201cotomatik a\u00e7\u0131lan i\u00e7 kap\u0131\u201dy\u0131 tan\u0131mak ve onunla ili\u015fkimizi d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmek.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bazen bunu bir film, bir e\u011fitim ya da bir sohbet vesilesiyle fark ederiz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bazen bir ayr\u0131l\u0131k, hastal\u0131k ya da kay\u0131pla\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Hayat, biz \u00f6\u011frenene kadar ayn\u0131 dersi yeniden ve yeniden \u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcze getirir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu d\u00f6ng\u00fclerin ne oldu\u011funu <strong>d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan, tarafs\u0131z bir g\u00f6zle<\/strong> g\u00f6rebilmeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda ise i\u00e7erdeki t\u00fcm yan\u0131lsamalardan uyanmaya ba\u015flar\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Upekkha,<\/strong> yani tarafs\u0131z g\u00f6zlem yapabilen zihin, bu fark\u0131ndal\u0131k halini ifade eder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu zihin geli\u015ftik\u00e7e <strong>duygular sa\u011fal\u0131r, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler sakinle\u015fir<\/strong> ve insan olanda kalabilmeye, <strong>halinden memnuniyet duymaya<\/strong>, gev\u015femeye ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ben de kurucusu oldu\u011fum <strong>Upeka\u2019da<\/strong>, 8 y\u0131ld\u0131r ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirdi\u011fim t\u00fcm e\u011fitim ve birebir \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalarda, geli\u015ftirilmek istenen beceri ne olursa olsun <strong>\u00f6nce bu fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131 geli\u015ftirmeye odaklan\u0131yorum.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc yeni bir beceriyi sisteme bilgi olarak eklemek, <strong>ancak i\u015flevsiz kal\u0131plar\u0131 ay\u0131rt edip y\u00fck\u00fc azaltmayla,<\/strong> yani <strong>i\u00e7sel bir d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcmle <\/strong>m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hepimizin i\u00e7 kap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n zamanla daha fark\u0131ndal\u0131kla a\u00e7\u0131lmas\u0131 ve d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bakabilen g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn berrakla\u015fmas\u0131 dile\u011fiyle\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u0130nsan\u0131n hayat yolculu\u011fu beni hep b\u00fcy\u00fclemi\u015ftir. Her birimiz belirli ko\u015fullar\u0131n i\u00e7ine do\u011far, deneyimler toplar ve bu birikimlerin i\u00e7inde kendimize ve hayata dair tan\u0131mlar olu\u015ftururuz. Ancak 30\u2019lara geldi\u011fimizde \u00e7o\u011funlukla bir \u015feyler zorlamaya ba\u015flar. \u0130\u00e7eride yaln\u0131zl\u0131k, mutsuzluk ya da eksiklik hissi; d\u0131\u015far\u0131da gerginlik, \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma ya da bitmeyen bir aray\u0131\u015f\u2026 Eski tan\u0131mlar ve al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar art\u0131k iyi gelmez olur&#8230;.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":3200,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2227","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-1"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2227","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2227"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2227\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3381,"href":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2227\/revisions\/3381"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/3200"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2227"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2227"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.upeka.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2227"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}